Your next step when improvements feel unclear
I know what it feels like when you try to make healthy changes but are left unsure if the advice is helping and uncertain what to do next.
This is different.
I’m not going to share what works for me or tell you what you should do.
I’m going to help you learn what your body needs, so you can decide which advice, programmes, products and self-care practices are worth continuing, adjusting or letting go of.
I’m not giving you another map, I’m giving you the compass.
When good advice sometimes doesn’t help
Even really good, well researched advice sometimes doesn’t help.
Does this sound familiar?
- Advice helped one symptom but caused another issue
- Advice seemed to help some days but not at other times
- Improvements were very slow or very small
- Improvements faded or stopped after a while
- What used to work well, no longer helps
This is what I saw with my clients and experienced myself.
So I know that awful feeling of uncertainty – like driving in thick fog and desperately trying to keep to the road ahead.
There is always a good reason why you decide it’s time to get healthy – so when you spend time and money on the healthy products and programmes it’s disappointing when you can’t tell if it’s working.
You’re left feeling stuck, undecided if you should keep going or give up and start all over again.
And if you’ve been here more than once (many of us have) it becomes a painful and weary process.
MSS method is based on how I helped my clients for 20 years and then adapted a DIY version when I needed it for myself.
Is your body the problem – or the messenger?
When I was younger and struggling with my health, I often wished my body would just tell me what was wrong.
Ironically, my body was probably wishing I would just learn to listen.
Your body responds to everything you do.
Some of the things you do are what it needs,
some don’t make much difference,
and some of what you do can cause a bit of a disruption.
And like the game ‘am I getting hotter or colder?’ the body responds with a pattern of subtle signals – messages.
This is helping, that isn’t, and that doesn’t make much difference.
Obviously with healthy living the goal is to find and make as many changes as possible that your body needs.
Learning to read these messages is the first step.
And anyone can learn this skill.
When you realise your body responds to everything
Once I realised my body responds to everything it opened a window into a different way of looking at self-care.
I already knew that emotions and stress were linked to health and well-being.
But once you realise that your body is also responding to your emotional reactions to the ups and downs of everyday life – it changes everything.
Normal health advice doesn’t factor in what you’ve been dealing with last week or this month.
I don’t mean trauma.
I mean worries about credit card balance, the angry fight you had with your partner, dreading going into work,
Your body responds to these as much as the healthy changes you are making.
Your health can influence many aspects of daily life.
And life’s unexpected ups and downs influence your body and health.
For some of us trying to stick to rigid plans, during difficult weeks and phases backfires on us.
You:
Try harder.
Push through.
Feel guilty.
Start again.
Instead, now I adjust my self-care, based on how my body responds to what’s going on in my life.
So much easier – for me and my body!
Sometimes it’s finding a different way to support yourself until things settle down again
Living Menu of Self-Care
The aim of MSS is to create and follow your own personalised Living Menu of Self-Care.
Your menu contains some self-care that are essentials – no matter what else is happening your body needs these.
Others you pick and choose, as and when needed.
When life feels easy you actively build health,
when it gets busier you adjust and maintain your health levels
and when life sends a curve ball you go into rest and protect.
Your menu is the go-to self-care practices and advice that work for your body at any of these stages.
Every time you try something, listen to your body’s feedback and decide whether to continue, adjust or let go, your menu becomes a little clearer.
You need a compass not another map
This is why I created the Make Self-Care Simple Method.
Not to tell you what to do.
Not to give you another programme to follow.
But to know what your next step is when other people’s advice leaves you uncertain if its helping and unsure what to do.
It’s about learning how to make self-care decisions when the path ahead isn’t clear.
Sometimes your body doesn’t need the healthy changes you are offering. Sometimes other things in your life make it difficult for improvements to show.
MSS helps you learn what your body needs so you can decide what to continue, adjust or let go of.
When you learn to listen to your body, consider what is happening in your life, and adjust your self-care accordingly, something begins to change.
You stop relying on guesswork.
You stop starting from scratch.
And little by little, you build a personalised Living Menu of Self-Care that fits your body, your life and your needs.
That’s why I say I’m not giving you another map.
I’m giving you the compass.
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