The Make Self-Care Simple Method is designed for those times when you don’t see the improvements you expected, despite following good advice.
You’ve followed the advice, made the changes or stuck with the practice — but the results aren’t as clear as you hoped.
Perhaps nothing much seems to be happening. Something helped for a while and then stopped. Your symptoms keep changing. Or you simply don’t know whether to keep going, change something or look for another answer.
When that happens, it’s easy to get stuck in uncertainty, jump from one answer to another or eventually give up because nothing seems to help.
But there are good reasons why healthy advice doesn’t always give you the clear results you expected.
Good advice can only help when it gives your body something it needs
Think about a plant.
A thirsty plant can transform surprisingly quickly when you give it water.
Give the same amount of water to a plant that already has enough and you won’t see the same result.
And if the plant is struggling because it already has too much water, adding more could make things worse.
The advice that plants need water isn’t wrong.
The plant isn’t doing anything wrong either.
Water simply isn’t what that particular plant needs right now.
Self-care works in much the same way.
What your body needs can change. Sometimes it may need something else first. Sometimes it may need additional support. And something that suited you perfectly in the past may not be what you need today.
Bodies aren’t one-size-fits-all either
Two people can follow exactly the same healthy advice and have very different experiences.
Our bodies start from different places, have different needs and are affected by different things.
That means the results of self-care aren’t always as neat or predictable as the advice itself can make them sound.
You might see the improvement you expected.
But you might also see mixed results, unclear results, something completely unexpected — or seemingly no improvement at all.
Someone else’s results can’t always tell you what your own body needs.
And you take your body with you into everyday life
Your body doesn’t experience self-care in isolation.
It comes to work with you.
It experiences the sleepless night, the argument, the busy weekend, the holiday, the heatwave and the lovely afternoon spent laughing with a friend.
It responds to illness and recovery, but also to stress, worry, enjoyment, connection and the ordinary demands of living.
So even when you follow the same self-care, you won’t necessarily see the same results every day, every week or at every stage of your life.
Sometimes the picture can become surprisingly messy.
That’s why personalisation matters
Healthy advice gives you somewhere to start.
The next skill is learning how to personalise it.
And personalising doesn’t necessarily mean starting again. You may discover that the advice you’ve already invested time, effort or money in does suit you — once you understand more about how your body is responding, what else may be influencing your results, or whether something simply needs adjusting.
That doesn’t mean diagnosing yourself or trying to become your own practitioner.
It means learning how to make sense of what actually happens when you follow self-care, within your real everyday life — and using what you discover to make better-informed decisions about what makes sense for you.
That is the skill the Make Self-Care Simple Method teaches you.
A simple skill you can use again and again
I spent more than 20 years working one-to-one as a natural health practitioner, where personalising support to the individual person was simply part of the process.
But when I later found myself navigating my own changing health, I realised how much harder that is when you’re trying to do it for yourself.
I wanted a simple process I could return to whenever I found myself wondering:
Is this helping?
What am I missing?
What makes sense to do next?
The Make Self-Care Simple Method grew from the process I began using myself.
It teaches you how to learn from what actually happens when you follow self-care — so you can become better at recognising what supports you, what may be getting in the way, patterns or gaps you might otherwise miss, and when your needs may have changed.
Then you can use that information to decide what makes sense next and make a simple course correction when you need to.
Instead of continually starting again, you begin building a more personal understanding of the self-care that fits you.
And because your body, your circumstances and your needs will keep changing, it’s a skill you can return to again and again.
Start with your body
If self-care is going to become more personal, you need somewhere to start.
And one of the most useful places to begin is with something you already have:
your body’s own feedback.
The problem is that feedback isn’t always easy to recognise — particularly when your results have been messy, unclear or not what you expected.
That’s why I created the free Body Guidance Review.
It’s a simple first step that can help you understand more about the feedback your own body has been giving you — before you learn how to use that information as part of the full Make Self-Care Simple Method. Find out more HERE