You’ve found the advice.
You’ve done your research.
You’ve made the healthy change.
But how do you know if it’s actually helping?
That’s the question Make Self-Care Simple was created to help you answer.
Most healthy living advice tells us what to do.
Walk a certain number of steps each day. Add or remove particular foods. Take a recommended supplement. Try a new health or wellbeing product. Follow a specific sleep routine or relaxation technique.
And that can be really helpful.
Someone has done the research, worked something out or found an approach that helped them. We have somewhere to begin.
Sometimes we follow the advice, feel better and think: brilliant.
Keep doing it. You’ve found something that works for you.
But sometimes it isn’t that simple.
You follow the advice and the improvement you expected doesn’t appear.
Perhaps you rarely notice much difference when you make healthy changes and are left wondering whether anything is happening at all.
Or perhaps something has changed, but you’re not sure whether it’s enough.
One thing improves while something else gets worse.
You feel better some days but not others.
Something helps at first and then seems to stop.
Now what do you do?
Do I keep going?
Should I change something?
Is this actually helping?
Or is it time to let it go?
This is where Make Self-Care Simple begins.
A lack of obvious results doesn’t mean a lack of useful information
For more than 20 years, I worked with hundreds of people who had done their research and were trying very hard to look after themselves.
And I kept seeing the same thing.
They weren’t necessarily following bad advice.
They just weren’t getting the simple, obvious results they had expected.
I know that feeling myself.
It’s very easy at that point to assume the advice hasn’t worked, wonder whether you’ve done something wrong or go searching for the next answer.
But when I looked more closely at what was happening, I often found something else.
The way their bodies were responding contained useful clues about what they needed at that particular time.
Perhaps something was improving, but not where they had expected.
Perhaps their body needed something else first, or more support alongside it.
Perhaps the advice needed adapting to suit them.
And sometimes their response really was showing that something simply wasn’t right for them — or wasn’t right for them now.
Because once you follow the advice, another source of information becomes available: your response to it.
Your body is always responding — and that response can help guide you.
The feedback doesn’t look the same for everyone, and it isn’t always obvious.
I think of this as your Body’s Guidance Style — the individual way your body gives you feedback as you make changes.
Learning to recognise that feedback can help you decide whether to give something more time, make an adjustment or let it go.
Good advice gives you somewhere to start. Your body’s response helps you discover what you need next.
That’s the part of self-care I want to help you with.
Making self-care more personal
Make Self-Care Simple isn’t another health plan.
I’m not here to tell you what to eat, which supplements to take, how to exercise or which morning routine you should follow.
There are already plenty of people doing that very well.
Instead, I’ll help you learn to notice how your body responds to the changes you make.
To recognise what seems to support you.
To adapt good advice when it needs adapting.
To give something more time when the early signs are encouraging.
And to recognise when it may be time to let something go.
Over time, those small discoveries help you build a more personalised approach to self-care — one based not only on what should help, but on what you discover actually supports your body and your life.
You don’t have to stop following healthy advice.
You just learn how to make it your own.
And this doesn’t need to be complicated.
Learning to notice your body’s feedback and use it to decide what to do next is a simple skill that anyone can learn.
The more you practise, the better you get at working with your body rather than simply following instructions and hoping for the expected result.
And over time, you build a skill you can draw on whenever your body, your circumstances or your needs change.
If you’d like to learn more, choose whichever next step feels most useful to you.
Where would you like to begin?
🌿 Understand the Method
Discover the simple approach I use to help make sense of what happens after you follow healthy advice.
🌱 Try it for yourself
Start with the free Feedback Finder and discover how your body may already be giving you useful information.
📖 Learn alongside me
Follow my weekly Field Notes, where I share the small things I notice and learn as I use this approach in my own everyday self-care.
