When I use the words self-care, I don’t mean bubble baths, learning to say no, or habits and routines — even though these things might be part of my own self-care at times.
Those are the visible parts.
What others can see from the outside.
They’re one half of self-care — the busy, action-based half.
And it’s possible to be busy with self-care and still feel like you’re going around in circles.
What’s often missing is the quieter, inner part of self-care — the part others don’t see, and the part that gives self-care its real power.
This quieter approach isn’t about doing more.
It’s about understanding what actually supports you.
Because self-care isn’t meant to be another form of pressure — something to get right, keep up with, or perform well at.
Here, self-care means something much simpler.
It’s about learning to listen to your body.
Noticing how it responds.
And gently adjusting what you do based on that feedback.
Your body becomes an inner guide to what it needs — in this moment.
This intuitive approach to self-care responds to real life:
changing energy, shifting moods, ups and downs that don’t follow neat routines.
It’s especially supportive if your body feels sensitive, shut down, or unresponsive — or if you’ve found that general advice just doesn’t work for you.
There’s no ideal routine to follow, and no perfect version of yourself to reach.
All that’s needed is a willingness to listen — quietly and kindly.
If that feels like a relief rather than another task, you’re in the right place.
If you’re curious how this approach is explored in practice, you can read more about how Make Self-Care Simple works here.
You’re welcome to explore this approach through the blog, or inside the free community — gently, in your own time.